This Page will be an exact copy of text messages sent between the mother and I since April of 2010.
1. The notice the mother has had about the safety issues of the daycare and her unwillingness to change.
2. The mothers comments to me that will show her temper.
3. The mothers lack of concern for a child who must at times be transpotred in each direction by Bus,Subway,Ferry and then livery cab. All of the methods are required by the law due to a temporary order the mother has enforced.
The ride from queens to staten island is a very long and hot ride. The mother has been asked ( by me ) to pick the child up when I do not have a ride and she does not agree to make our son's ride more comfortable.
This is all due to the mother telling the court that I am a bad parent. Every allegation she has alledged she has also admitted to doing the same.IS THIS JUSTICE?
You may be able to hire a powerful attorney but you can not hide from the truth. My videos, Text messages, Saved emails, Saved voice mails and her own words will tell the truth of this story.
TEXT MESSAGES AND DATES
March 29th 10:04 pm
Stan: I am going to be in Staten island for a 1 pm appointment. Can you please let the nanny know ill stop by around 1:45ish OK?
Safije: If you want to see Dylan I will be home at 8pm. Or we can discuss another night that is more convenient.
Stan: I told you I am in the area at 1pm and that is when I’m hoping to see my son but your denying my request yet again.
Safije: Not denying you to see him but I wont be home at that time so you can come over when I am home. Do not harass the nanny.
Stan: So I can only see him on your schedule. That’s very uncool and a nasty way to have control after all these years.
Safije: I have to rest so pick a night when you can visit with him.
Stan: I am in the area for work tomorrow after noon. I want to see him then. This distance thing sucks. Let me see him and tell her I’m coming. Don’t be unfair.
Safije: NO RESPONSE
MARCH 29th
Stan: my appointment got changed till Thursday or Friday afternoon. I would like to see him then.
Safije: I am home at 8pm every evening as I have said already.
Stan: I can only see him on your schedule is not fair to me. You are so wrong. You told me to get a court order yesterday so if that’s what needed I will then.
Safije: I am offering you options. I don’t want to involve the nanny
Stan: your nanny speaks no English and call our son papi. I asked you to tell her not to call him that. He needs to learn his name.
Safije: you don’t need to worry about that she is only temporary.
Stan: that’s not the point. I asked you and you said ok but you didn’t do anything about it. When is she done?
Safije: soon enough. If you gave me money then maybe we would have an English speaking nanny.
Stan: if you let me have visitation I would gladly give you money. You don’t let me have him so why give you money?
Safije: seeing him the way you have is visitation also.
Stan: no its not. I want alone time with my son. I want my extended family and friends to finally meet him. Why are you doing this to me and my family? Its so uncool.
Safije: I am busy if you want to talk you can call me tonight.
Stan: fine but I still want to see him when I’m in the area. Ill call you at 9pm.
Safije: 9 pm is fine.
We talked on the phone and she restated that she would not allow me to see him unless she was in with me when I did see him. This is when I finally decided to serve her with the court papers and take my son to start to create my own bond. This was in addition to me seeing her smoke in the apartment with the baby. She lives in a studio and was smoking in the bathroom. I was also upset at the fact that when I arrived 1 day she was using the aspirator on our son and was squeezing it very hard forcing the air up into his nose and not using it properly. I guess she didn’t read the directions. The following occurred as I was preparing to get our son and bond with him.
April 2nd
Stan: does he need milk? If so what kind?
Stan: since Sunday is a holiday I am asking you if I can have him for Easter since your family does not celebrate Easter. PLEASE!
Safije: I will not be home till after 9pm. I will be with family until then.
AT THIS POINT I DECIDED I HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO PHYICALLY TAKE MY SON LEGALLY. 3 pm ish
SAFIJE called me and threatened to kill me if I didn’t bring him right back. Which I then replied with a text.
Stan: if you talk calmly we can discuss when you will get him back.
SAFIJE called with more threats.
Stan: if you cause a scene I will press charges.
SAFIJE called with more threats.
Stan: let me know when you want to talk calmly. If we don’t talk I am going to keep him.
Stan: when is his next feeding? Please ask the nanny.
SAFIJE never responded. I asked her to send me an email stating that I could have him for Easter and I would allow her to take him home.
Safije: SHE TEXTS ME…30 minutes and I will call you when done.
Safije: she texts me again… 20 more minutes waiting on phone calls. She never went to her job to email me.
At this point 5 police cars arrived at my home and tried to arrest me. She stated that I forced my way into her apartment and took him from the nanny. I had a police officer in my home with me at the time ( a friend ) . The police then handcuffed me until my friend handed over all the paper work that I’ve prepared with court documents and a subpoena in addition to video that showed the nanny allowing me into the home when I took my son with me. I also put the nanny on the phone with a Spanish speaking friend who explained to her what I was doing and why I was doing it. I also went to my local police department as well as hers and spoke with the seargent on duty to notify them of what I was doing and if they wanted to accompany me. I was told no need because I already had all the legal paperwork.
April 3rd 7 am
Stan: As his mother I want you know he is safe and has been fed and changed on a regular basis. Going to try and sleep a bit if he lets me.
Stan: If you like you can call with any question and we can talk when your calm.
Stan: Before you go to court and make allegations or hire a lawyer I suggest you call me so you’re not hurting me or you in the long run. I have tons of info I will share with you that I have gathered.
Safije: Bring back the baby you can see him for Easter.
April 5th
Safije: Well?
Stan: From now on, call me on my cell please and do not wake up my mother down stairs.
Stan: You may come see him any time day or night. I will not impose a schedule or deny you any visits as you have done to me.
Stan: On Wednesday the judge will ask if we have agreed on visitation and if we don’t talk about it you will get custody until we or a mediator decides it for us.
Stan: I am not hiring a lawyer for Wednesday because the judge will ask if we have agreed on anything yet and that’s all that will happen. Don’t waste your money yet. You can save this to show the judge if I lied about legal counsel which is not needed and a waste of money at this point.
Safije: Bring Dillon back home to me right now!
Stan: You denied me him for eleven weeks. I did what I had to as his father to enjoy some time with him on my own. Over the next 18 years this is the most I will have him.
Safije: Don’t you think he needs his mommy after 5 days away from me?
Stan: Come see him anytime. He needs both of us. I am not keeping him from you. I just want some time to experience what you would not allow me. I am open to talk when ever you are ready.
Safije: If you are not keeping him from me then I want to come get him right now.
Stan: I said you can come see him any time you want. Unlike you putting time limits on me when I wanted to see him. I said I would give him back on Friday if you emailed me as proof that you would let me have him for Easter and you refused. Using your citi lawyers I’m sure.
Safije: You took him with out my knowledge or consent.
Stan: We have no court order until next Wednesday. We have equal rights to him. I told you I went to police and notified them what I was doing and you made other statements that I did it illegal which the police realized after all those police came to arrest me and I showed them all the documents I had. That’s why they let me keep him because you lied and I did it all legal.
Safije: I never lied to anyone about what the facts were. You took my son without my knowledge or my consent.
Stan: Get used to the fact that he is NOT your son but he is OUR son and I have rights to him as well and not after 6 months like you wanted. YOU are not the law.
Safije: Bring him back home to me right now.
Stan: I’m going to go and feed and change him right now. The sooner we talk the sooner we can resolve sharing him. I do love him with all my heart.
Safije: Bring him home to me right now.
Stan: He has two homes for the next 18 years.
April 7th
Stan: Our baby has been fed twice since we spoke and diaper changed 3 times and changed clothes also. Are you going to call tonight? How many daily updates would you like per your request last night?
April 28th
Stan: I’m one mile from the bridge traffic is bad. Tell the nanny I should be at the house 15 minutes max.
May 1st
Stan: Recall on baby’s Motrin Zytrec and Benadryl. Don’t know if you use it. Liquid only. Pill no good.
Safije: He is too small for any kind of pills or anything solid. Next week you will have to pick him up from my daycare not my house.
Stan: Ok The address please.
Safije: 81 Belair Rd
Stan: ok If you want to save money I can pick him up early on Wednesday or you can pick him up after work on Friday. Your choice.
Safije: No. Just stick to the court schedule please.
Stan: OK
May 5th
Safije: Let me know when you arrive and the baby sitter will bring him out to you.
Stan: Ok Outside @ 11:40AM
Safije: It’s suppose to be Noon pick-up. I would like to stick to the court order. I will have her come down at 12.
Stan: It’s 11:45A
Safije: I think we should follow the court order so we don’t have any problem.
Stan: 15 minutes? There will come a time when you are picking him up from me. We are going to have to be a little civil with each other.
Safije: I am civil. Just ask that you follow what the judge has laid out for the time being.
Stan: No problem. Next time I’ll wait 15 minutes if I arrive early.
Safije: He is turning now and has a tendency to turn his face into the mattress. He needs to be watched all the time.
Stan: Ok, thank you. I thought that was at 5 months. He is early. Great I will watch.
May 20th
Stan: I think I’m getting a cold sore on my lip. I can feel it starting. Is that something he can catch.
Safije: Calling the doctor but I suggest you don’t kiss him and sterilize your hands. Will let you know if they call me back today. If you want to be safe bring him back tonight. Let me know.
Stan: Better safe than sorry. My mom is in the city until 9PM for Ava recital then helping Suzanne. I cant drive.
Safije: ???
Stan: If you want to pick him up you can. I can not legally drive with him in the car until next Wednesday
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Safije: OK will pick him up around 7ish.
Stan: Ok
Safije: I’ll be there in 10 minutes please bring his pacifier down
May 24th
Safije: He is sick and on antibiotics. Would you be ok with not picking him up this week since he is on meds and really should be resting. Ear infection and pick eye. Please let me know.
Stan: Are you blaming this on me?
Safije: I am asking you to let me take care of him until he finishes his meds
Stan: Since he is sick and is already on a schedule with meds I will like all updates on his medical condition.
Safije: I have to give him his meds for the next 10 days and have a doctors appointment on Saturday. Can you answer my question please.
Stan: But what about the court order?
Safije: He is sick I think the court will understand that.
May 25th
---- Email from Safije: Per our text message exchange yesterday, and your request for an email from me, I would like to know given that he is sick and has pink eye and an ear infection, would you be willing to have him stay with me until he finishes his medication. He started yesterday since what I was giving him over the weekend he kept spitting out and I had to change to something else. He has to be on this medicine for 10 days. It think it would be better for him to rest and not be driven back and forth until he is better since he is still so small.
--- Email from Stan: Not that I can not take care of him or give him medicine but agree that since he is sick he should not be transported and will allow him to stay and rest.
June 4th
Stan: My mom is going to be getting out 30 minutes earlier today as school is almost done. I should have him by you around 3/3:30 after she drives us.
Safije: Ok
June 9th
Stan @ 12:05PM: I’m outside.
Safije: Ok
Stan: Please have your sitter have him ready at 12N in the future. It’s the court order we need to follow as you have said.
Safije: Please be nice to her. She takes great care of him and I don’t want to loose her. It’s only 5 minutes after noon.
Stan: I’m always nice to her. Just making a point because you made that comment when I was 18 minutes early. So I expect the same.
June 11th
Stan: My mom has a doctors appointment at 4PM so we are heading to SI at 2PM since she is my ride
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Safije: Ok thank you
June 18th
Safije: How is he? What time should Layla expect him?
Stan: At my mom’s school now. Leaving in 5. Approx 1 hour. He is awesome.
June 20th
Stan: Is it ok if I come around 11:30AM?
-- no response
Safije: 7PM - he has a bruise on his wrist - what happened?
Stan: What bruise? Not with me. He slept all day.
June 28th
Stan: I have an email for you about this week about our son. Do you mind if I send it to you. It’s long and way too much to type.
Safije: No.
Stan: Forget it. I just wanted you to be aware of what I need to do. If you can’t read it and make a choice then I will just do my best. Just want you to be aware and wanted proof that you are aware of the limited choices I have with rides becoming harder and also aware of the way he will need to be transported this week. If you can’t read it, then I will just use the only option I have. Not going to speak to you and have you use it against me saying you had no idea. Was going to let you know because you are his parent also and was looking out for his best interest as his parent but if you don’t want anything documented as proof we spoke then I will do what I can with the choices left. Just wanted you to be aware of safer options. They are all safe but I wanted you to be aware of the safest that you could have helped me make. You just call because you refuse my email. Then I will use all my options deemed safe by the city of NY. You would rather have him on subway and ferry rather than bring him in so I can get him. Thank you.
Safije: No I suggest you take a cab. That’s what you should do.
Stan: I’m not asking for suggestions. I’m asking you to make it easier on him.
June 30th
Stan: I’m outside. I have a taxi waiting. It’s 11:50AM and you’re making me wait until noon because of a court order. Ten minutes ok. Never ask me to consider anything in the future. I’ve asked you to be a tiny bit flexible as I have been and you refuse. This tough girl act is going to bite you in the ass when you need my help in the future.
July 5th
Stan: I just want to double check, court 11AM?
Safije: 2PM
Stan: Thank you
July 13th
Safije: You should go buy Oragel. He is having teething pains. Make sure you get baby Oragel.
Stan: Ok
July 14th
Stan: I’m probably going to be 15 to 30 minutes late. My ride was late and I’m guessing bad traffic with the rain and bad roads.
Safije: OK
July 16th
Stan: FYI not sure if he has yet with you but he went to sleep at 10:30PM and he is still sleeping.
Safije: Ok, have you fed him at all during the night?
Stan: He did not wake up at all. Sleeping like a baby.
Safije: It’s ok to drop him at my job this week since you are having issues finding drivers this week.
Safije: How long before you are here.
Safije: How long before you are here.
Safije: Please drop him off on Lex and 54th
Safije: How much longer?
Stan: Guessing 15 with traffic
July 29th
Stan: If I can drop him off at your job at 5 or 6 when you get out, great. If not that’s ok. Doing ferry again, that’s why I ask you.
Safije: [no response]
July 30th
Stan: I guess the answer is no.
Nov 16th
Please dress him warm as I will be taking a ferry then taxi from my test site in lower manhattan and the same on the return plus a subway and bus.
Dec 1st.
Safije: The day care entrance is now on the by the driveway.Go down the stairs to the left..
Dec 21st
Stan: Call me if you want to discuss vuisitation if you want to advoid being billed hours by your lawyer.
Dec 22nd
Stan: Im going to request an extra day in Jan.do you want to discuss or go thru lawyers and pay for those hours. Ill wait till Thursday for your response. Trying to save you some money.
Safije: Thank you. Just go thru your lawyer.
Stan: OK
Jan 6th
Stan: I didn’t hear from my lawyer yet. Did you respond about this Saturday about my 2nd cousins get together. Did you reply yet?
Safije: I responded earlier in the week.
Stan: She has not heard yet she has told me. Is the answer yes or no?
Safije: I asked for an amended chedule but since that didn’t work out I would like to spend my weekend with him like I normally do
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Stan: BTW we spoke last week about safety issuesat the day care. When can we discussthis isuue. I don’t want to screw you or them. I know its very easy for you having them down the block. I don’t want to have them fined or shut down. Do you want to discuss or should I just send to my lawyer
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Safije: we can discuss you concerns over the weekend
Stan: Never mind. I think I should handle this legally as his safety is my main prioruity. They have several violations and I don’t want him at that location any longer.
Stan: Fyi, I have looked at the department of buuildings website and requirements and they must have changed things since they were given the license. BTW your welcome I am looking out for his safety. Ill send you ALL the photos and documents if you like? Waiting till this weekend shows lack of concern for his safety. You could of called sooner.
Safije: My concern has and will always be for his safety.The daycare is licensed and in compliance.
Stan: They are not !! I have tried to talk to you but you refuse. Watch it on CH 2 Shanme Shame on you.Just because they have a license doesn’t mean they are following code. I tried to talk to you but you refuse making it easier to show your lack of concern to the court. You being stubborn makes it so easy.
Jan 7th
Stan: Did you get my email about driving him in this weather? Ignoring me does not change the weather conditions.
Safije: I am at work—please follow the court order.
Stan: Its about his safety and Im sure they will understand.
Jan 8th
Stan: I am asking one last time. Can I have him today from 3-9 for my family get together? I would like Aunt Jeanie to meet him before the cancer kills her. She is up from FLA getting kemo.She has asked when can she finally meet him.
Jan 31st
Stan: Hey I just want to know if you have looked into other day cares since we last talked about the safety issues I have told you about?
Feb 2nd
Safije has called me several times stating she is coming to take OUR son back and has a court order and will not tell me the reason. She has harassed me several times demanding to know where I am right now.
Stan: I will call you back asap when my lawyer contacts me.
Feb 3rd
Stan.: My lawyer has contact me this AM and you are free to come pick him up when you like.
BTW.. WHEN she came with the police to pick up our son she did not have a car seat. I had to make a comment to the police and I had to let them borrow my car seat to transport OUR son safely.
MANY MORE MONTHS OF TEXT MESSAGES TO BE ADDED.
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JUSTICE FOR MY SON. This page will show videos of the daycare renting to an illegal in the basement. The past text messages also proves the mother was aware of the daycare being located in different parts of the building. Its not a babysitter as she claimed in court and lied. TRIAL WILL BE FUN TO FINALLY PROVE THE LIES HER HIGH POWERED ATTORNEY CLAIMED IN COURT.