Prior to the whole court issue starting between us I tried to communicate with the mother about not hiring lawyers and working it out between us. I was hoping that as 2 adults we could save time and money. The mother hired the firm of Raaul Felder and partners and lied to the court about me in order to get a court order giving her back custoday instantly. Below is a copy of the actual text message I have sent the mother. The text messages will show the communication to me just prior to taking custody of our son since the mother restricted me on the days and times I could see our son.
April 2nd
Stan: does he need milk? If so what kind?
Stan: since Sunday is a holiday I am asking you if I can have him for Easter since your family does not celebrate Easter. PLEASE!
Safije: I will not be home till after 9pm. I will be with family until then.
AT THIS POINT I DECIDED I HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO PHYICALLY TAKE MY SON LEGALLY. 3 pm ish
SAFIJE called me and threatened to kill me if I didn’t bring him right back. Which I then replied with a text.
Stan: if you talk calmly we can discuss when you will get him back.
SAFIJE called with more threats.
Stan: if you cause a scene I will press charges.
SAFIJE called with more threats.
Stan: let me know when you want to talk calmly. If we don’t talk I am going to keep him.
Stan: when is his next feeding? Please ask the nanny.
SAFIJE never responded. I asked her to send me an email stating that I could have him for Easter and I would allow her to take him home.
Safije: SHE TEXTS ME…30 minutes and I will call you when done.
Safije: she texts me again… 20 more minutes waiting on phone calls. She never went to her job to email me.
At this point 5 police cars arrived at my home and tried to arrest me. She stated that I forced my way into her apartment and took him from the nanny. I had a police officer in my home with me at the time ( a friend ) . The police then handcuffed me until my friend handed over all the paper work that I’ve prepared with court documents and a subpoena in addition to video that showed the nanny allowing me into the home when I took my son with me. I also put the nanny on the phone with a Spanish speaking friend who explained to her what I was doing and why I was doing it. I also went to my local police department as well as hers and spoke with the seargent on duty to notify them of what I was doing and if they wanted to accompany me. I was told no need because I already had all the legal paperwork.
April 3rd 7 am
Stan: As his mother I want you know he is safe and has been fed and changed on a regular basis. Going to try and sleep a bit if he lets me.
Stan: If you like you can call with any question and we can talk when your calm.
Stan: Before you go to court and make allegations or hire a lawyer I suggest you call me so you’re not hurting me or you in the long run. I have tons of info I will share with you that I have gathered.
Safije: Bring back the baby you can see him for Easter.
April 5th
Safije: Well?
Stan: From now on, call me on my cell please and do not wake up my mother down stairs.
Stan: You may come see him any time day or night. I will not impose a schedule or deny you any visits as you have done to me.
Stan: On Wednesday the judge will ask if we have agreed on visitation and if we don’t talk about it you will get custody until we or a mediator decides it for us.
Stan: I am not hiring a lawyer for Wednesday because the judge will ask if we have agreed on anything yet and that’s all that will happen. Don’t waste your money yet. You can save this to show the judge if I lied about legal counsel which is not needed and a waste of money at this point.
Safije: Bring Dillon back home to me right now!
(NOTICE SHE CALLED HIM DILLON... SHE WAS NOT EVEN SURE OF HOW SHE WANTED TO SPELL HIS NAME YET SHE STATES THAT HAS ALWAYS BEEN HIS NAME )
Stan: You denied me him for eleven weeks. I did what I had to as his father to enjoy some time with him on my own. Over the next 18 years this is the most I will have him.
Safije: Don’t you think he needs his mommy after 5 days away from me?
Stan: Come see him anytime. He needs both of us. I am not keeping him from you. I just want some time to experience what you would not allow me. I am open to talk when ever you are ready.
Safije: If you are not keeping him from me then I want to come get him right now.
Stan: I said you can come see him any time you want. Unlike you putting time limits on me when I wanted to see him. I said I would give him back on Friday if you emailed me as proof that you would let me have him for Easter and you refused. Using your citi lawyers I’m sure.
Safije: You took him with out my knowledge or consent.
Stan: We have no court order until next Wednesday. We have equal rights to him. I told you I went to police and notified them what I was doing and you made other statements that I did it illegal which the police realized after all those police came to arrest me and I showed them all the documents I had. That’s why they let me keep him because you lied and I did it all legal.
Safije: I never lied to anyone about what the facts were. You took my son without my knowledge or my consent.
Stan: Get used to the fact that he is NOT your son but he is OUR son and I have rights to him as well and not after 6 months like you wanted. YOU are not the law.
Safije: Bring him back home to me right now.
Stan: I’m going to go and feed and change him right now. The sooner we talk the sooner we can resolve sharing him. I do love him with all my heart.
Safije: Bring him home to me right now.
Stan: He has two homes for the next 18 years.