This is a copy word for word that I sent the mother on 03-12-2012

Safije,

I have been deciding on how to handle a recent issue that has been happening. I wanted to inform you of it. I first want to start by letting you know that I think the current daycare lady is nice and takes good care of our son.


The reason I am writing you this letter is because for the past 3 Friday's when I have been returning our son he has been acting out like I have never seen him do before. I don't know if it is because of his age or if maybe something is scaring him but he screams so out of control and begs me not to leave him that it is killing me inside to see him go through this. I would like to know if we could make different arrangements for Friday's. Would you be willing to meet me at Penn station so that I can hand him over to you and not see him cry and beg for me not to go. He actually begs for both my hands and screams daddy please no don't go. This past Friday he almost ripped my chain off my neck he was pulling for me not to leave him so hard.

Whatever your thoughts about me I ask that you consider this as I hope you would agree it would be in his best interest to not suffer they way he has. This has nothing to do with me or you and is only about him.


Thank you.

Stan 

This is the mothers responce on 03-15-2012

Stan,

I appreciate your concern and hopefully this will help address some of your concerns. Dylan is at an age where he is experiencing separation anxiety. While this is normal at this age, I did have a conversation with Dr. Hymowitz PhD, who advised that this could continue until he is close to 3 years old. He advised that I monitor the situation and if it does not improve in 6 months that I should contact him then. You may want to read up on the topic so that you have a better understanding of it. In the meantime, my suggestion would be that you reinforce to him that he will see you the following week when you are dropping him off at the house so that he starts understanding that you will be back.

Safije

This is a copy of an email the mother sent me when she witnessed the hand of personally. Email sent 05-14-2012

Stan,

I wanted to let you know that I have some concerns about Dylan with respect to his separation anxiety. I have a scheduled appointment with Dr. Hymowitz this Wednesday evening to discuss my concerns. I will revert back regarding your vacation request following that appointment. If you would like to schedule an individual appointment with Dr. Hymowitz to discuss he can be reached at 212-xxx-xxxx.

Safije

The end result

Does this sound like a parent who is willing to share expierience's about the child with the other parent or is blowing off what was related about our child. She will not trust anything I say about our son. I tried with no results. I try my best to share information with no results.